tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post278723156172902342..comments2011-10-21T21:47:33.805-07:00Comments on Textual Orientation: Of Sluts and WalksNone the Wiserhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16983079228354284908noreply@blogger.comBlogger41125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-74408718097280360922011-10-21T21:47:33.805-07:002011-10-21T21:47:33.805-07:00Omg! Ur experiences r so much similar to mine! A f...Omg! Ur experiences r so much similar to mine! A few dys bacj, i had narrated them to my hubby n he ws surprised that we had to deal with such nuisance..Chiniiz n Sugarz Mom.. Swatihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07140340406937877716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-13360224694501625162011-08-04T05:06:42.890-07:002011-08-04T05:06:42.890-07:00Kudos. Brilliant post.
This is something I have ne...Kudos. Brilliant post.<br />This is something I have never had the courage to blog about, even though I have been through most of the everyday examples you talk about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-68480001014941627382011-08-01T05:05:24.207-07:002011-08-01T05:05:24.207-07:00I am so astonished to read this, cause I never ima...I am so astonished to read this, cause I never imagined that something of this nature could actually happen ! <br />I had no idea that men can stoop so damn low. I am not the only one guilty of this ignorance, I presume many men/guys are not aware that such incidents happen at all, forget about us having the knowledge of the fact that they occur on so much a widespread level ! <br />I cant understand why no one would care to intervene for you in places such as a public Bus ! . We (sane men) all have a sister, a caring mother, if we will stand up for them, so will I, and many more like me, do it for you or any other woman. I just wish I knew this happens or had been more observant !Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-25588848632716793032011-07-01T15:56:28.565-07:002011-07-01T15:56:28.565-07:00Brilliant. Bravo. Take a bow. You have clearly sai...Brilliant. Bravo. Take a bow. You have clearly said all that I wanted to say on this topic, but did not find the right words to express it!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-70117713278161660282011-06-11T00:35:10.183-07:002011-06-11T00:35:10.183-07:00You made me silent, I feel ashamed as a man. WTF t...You made me silent, I feel ashamed as a man. WTF these man thinks of themselves? Aren't they having their mothers, daughters and wife? I can't even ask you to report all this to police, they are incompetent.Rachithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09671194017987611900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-74853972252267792962011-06-09T20:15:28.924-07:002011-06-09T20:15:28.924-07:00Appreciate the post ! It was an eye opener and hop...Appreciate the post ! It was an eye opener and hopefully a mind opener for many of us. The fact that you have come ahead and written this fearlessly itself is a great sign of the things to come. I guess the effects of these movements shall take their own time to be seen but every big thing starts with something small, probably as small as this post.<br /><br />All the bestJitendrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05900183277311362376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-92159368857582529402011-06-09T11:34:10.843-07:002011-06-09T11:34:10.843-07:00Excellent article !!! A much needed eye opener to ...Excellent article !!! A much needed eye opener to the ignorance in the society !!!akhilkrishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02952337661363752714noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-71720023499268157142011-06-09T09:53:17.221-07:002011-06-09T09:53:17.221-07:00Those idiots who do all these crap do it without a...Those idiots who do all these crap do it without anyy fear..<br />1.its jus cozz the law against these ,though pevelant,is not bein enforced in the way it mus b..these crappy shits mus b shot right THERE on sight..<br />2.sorry to say..but the dressin sense of FEW women is really worsenin day by day..(wid due respect)...its also becozz of these weeds tat the whole community is facin things tat mus not even exist in a holy country like INDIA..<br />3.The attitude of the public..it mus change..'is not ma prob' thing must change.<br />oly then can v see a clean country<br />-Athul Sripadathul - think practicallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13021540400013512758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-11929872428617423472011-06-09T07:51:48.652-07:002011-06-09T07:51:48.652-07:00Hi ya .. have referenced your post in my latest bl...Hi ya .. have referenced your post in my latest blog post 'Let The Sluts Walk'<br />http://dazedreflection.blogspot.com/2011/06/let-sluts-walk.html<br /><br />Do stop by and check it out :)Dazedivahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09740129329387961435noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-48534064693981139792011-06-09T06:23:40.413-07:002011-06-09T06:23:40.413-07:00While I fully applaud walking as 'women proud ...While I fully applaud walking as 'women proud of their sexuality' against hormonally afflicted oppressive male behaviour, why call it the slut walk? Slut vs Casanova... both male created terms slut is derogatory while casanova aka Don huan is romantic.... WTF! Don't call it Slut walk, a new female coined term, of proud promiscuity, sexiness and fearless open display of it. Suggestions? While studies show... Kiwi chicks have the most sexual partners in the world and French Canadians have the most orgasms... i'd like to know the stastics on what percentage of men are prone to lewd behaviour ... in the mean time girls, don't call your self a slut, call yourself a casanova if you must!Shonahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04348151390419411836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-79078686189379429152011-06-09T06:01:53.753-07:002011-06-09T06:01:53.753-07:00Just can't get enough of it reading it over an...Just can't get enough of it reading it over and over again. One of my friends was walking on the streets when two bikers came, thrust his hands and grabbed her breasts. She walked like a zombie for a week. It was only after a week she broke down and told us . We were all crying. Don't they see the lives they are spilling in the river of fear and silence just for a moment of their so called animalistic 'pleasure'. This again is just a statement... for the answer is too obvious :(Satyabrata Mishrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08028928843789370827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-74471441973490099612011-06-09T05:51:31.372-07:002011-06-09T05:51:31.372-07:00(continued from previous)
Most of the people who a...(continued from previous)<br />Most of the people who are reading this blog will almost certainly be from educated, financially comfortable families, because they have access to a computer & the internet. But the vast majority of Indian homes are still like the above description. That's the background from where many eve teasers tend to come. They have never really looked at a woman as a human being worthy of respect. They may do the worst acts, but the 'educated' are not perfect either.<br /><br />I have had the good fortune of studying in good educational institutions. Yet, I was astounded to see even there how little understanding guys had of women. Not in the sense of love and relationships, those are hard to fathom for everyone. But in a basic human sense. While studying in schools in the Indian education system, students hardly have time away from studies, or spaces where they can meet and socialize without being questioned by parents or nosy 'well-wishers'. Sex ratio in most professional colleges (engineering, management) is highly skewed in favor of males. Apart from a few males who draw up the courage to interact openly with women and try to form friendships with them, most men stagnate into a locker-room mentality, where they will explicitly discuss a woman on campus in a guy's room, but never have the balls to go and actually talk to her, know her as a person. <br /><br />Ready availability of porn, and sexualization of everything in the media I think has worsened things. It makes it even more difficult to think of girls as something more than a body.<br /><br />That way I think Slutwalk is a very good idea. Most of this problem remains unresolved because it remains under the carpet. As people have said, women are unwilling to discuss it because of a mixture of embarrassment and helplessness. Sunlight is the best disinfectant. Make so much noise that people are forced to pay attention.<br />(Thanks for reading through all this. Even blogger gave me some trouble before accepting this comment pair)Solohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03867624647162900597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-75583326690424747432011-06-09T05:51:26.657-07:002011-06-09T05:51:26.657-07:00Excellent and thought provoking.....am happy that ...Excellent and thought provoking.....am happy that u reactedkkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05314314583675460666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-61958769009370521462011-06-09T05:44:26.780-07:002011-06-09T05:44:26.780-07:00Thanks for being so frank. This disease pervades t...Thanks for being so frank. This disease pervades the country, and going by the comments above, perhaps the world.<br /><br />But it's bad in India. Even educated people often objectify women. Students from good colleges can turn into hooligans when in a pack. Though they (usually?) will not end up masturbating in public.<br /><br />I am a student of Psychology. If anyone's interested in trying to understand why women are treated so disrespectfully in patriarchal societies like India, I highly recommend the works of psychoanalyst & writer Sudhir Kakar. <br /><br />Very briefly, his argument goes like this: a 'bahu' (daughter-in-law) comes into an old-style home dominated by the 'saas' & 'sasur' (mother & father-in-law respectively). The new bahu has to do all the household chores and generally is treated more like a servant than a family member. She gets practically no time for herself, no freedom for creative or other pursuits. She turns to her husband for support (Let's call him Pappu). Her husband Pappu is a sissy who has been pampered as 'raja beta' (roughly, "royal son") since childhood. All he has seen women (mother, sisters, cousins) do is household work from morning till night, with neither time nor encouragement to do anything else or explore life outside the home. Growing up in such a sheltered environment, with the mother protectively shielding him from life's challenges, he has not acquired any maturity. Pappu doesn't really know how to deal with women coz he didn't really try to understand or converse with the few girls there were in his school or college. (Except perhaps to gang up with his guy friends and ogle them from a distance, maybe pass a comment or two.) He doesn't yet understand that women possess a mind, not just a body. Anyway, he's no support to the wife. The wife begins to hate herself for being born a woman. Time passes. A child is born. If the child is a daughter, both the bahu and her daughter are ignored and treated even worse than before. BUT if the child is a boy, another 'raja beta' enters the family. As the mother of the heir of the family, the bahu gets respect for the first time in her married life. The saas volunteers for the first time to cook dinner, so the mother can spend time looking after the boy. The bahu gets space for herself via her child. The bahu/mother starts to idolize the child, looking upon him as the savior who brought her freedom from an oppressive life. She starts to love boys even more, and like girls even less. Result: she pampers his every wish, not letting him face the harshness of life. Another generation, another Pappu, cycle repeats.<br />(character limit about to be reached, continued in next)Solohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03867624647162900597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-82065491499398754852011-06-09T05:18:17.913-07:002011-06-09T05:18:17.913-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Solohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03867624647162900597noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-43547628359260332832011-06-09T01:32:19.943-07:002011-06-09T01:32:19.943-07:00This post required a lot of courage. Hats off to y...This post required a lot of courage. Hats off to you. The slut walk may not be of any help but at least such posts would be effective to people who after reading this, would take some responsibility on the streets and stop such assholes.Madshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09654391618536131785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-13263477010517583302011-06-08T21:54:39.254-07:002011-06-08T21:54:39.254-07:00Hey I totally agree..I have several such incidents...Hey I totally agree..I have several such incidents myself and its ridiculous.The worst part of it is that when I tell some one about it I get advice, "you should be careful, you shouldn't roam around alone"...Such incidents don't happen late in the night but in broad day light some times..And it only reminds me that we are not free in the true sense, makes me feel helpless...yes some thing needs to be done but what?moonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11828051756671353670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-54387525303448068312011-06-08T21:53:03.821-07:002011-06-08T21:53:03.821-07:00SAD. i was in a good mood when i came to office th...SAD. i was in a good mood when i came to office this morning and was listning to music while beginning to read this.. but by the middle i had stopped the music and was feeling sick.<br /><br />true i had heard about one or two such incidents.. but had no idea how often and how many are affected by it. <br /><br />I totally support women in such scenarios and would def. react if i were to be in the presence. i think in the end its the general public that needs to be aware and realise that its not ok to simply watch and ignore.<br /><br />the public needs to react. the uncles.. aunties.. or anyone aware of any such thing happening around them need to stop ignoring it. It could be their daughter/wife the next time.<br /><br />I feel Ashamed that men do such things.I feel compelled to apologize, which i know is useless.<br /><br />PS- Not always the best idea to confront. Rather stir up the public/start shouting.happyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08947787096391810842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-14524216202941835122011-06-08T20:35:06.680-07:002011-06-08T20:35:06.680-07:00My request to women encountering such men is - ple...My request to women encountering such men is - please react. I slapped people, screamed at them. Once I plunged my high heels into a man's feet who was trying to touch me inappropriately. He fled the bus. If you are brave, no one can take advantage of you being a woman.Scarlet Angelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15669705294820945355noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-16093198819084406802011-06-08T12:47:41.155-07:002011-06-08T12:47:41.155-07:00used to read about such experiences in my early bl...used to read about such experiences in my early blogging days on o3.indiatimes.com. Really sad to know the current state.<br /><br />As mentioned, am not sure how effective #SlutWalk would be but do hope it helps bring some change atleast... <br /><br />atb!<br /><br />PS: needs a lot of courage to write such a post...Neelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10467492750523744670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-90601619693713391012011-06-08T11:36:41.477-07:002011-06-08T11:36:41.477-07:00this is really an eye opener article... I am feeli...this is really an eye opener article... I am feeling too numb to comment anything. <br /><br />But i want to tell you something, when i read about incidents you faced, i also felt the same shock and fear (though i am a boy but still i would have felt the same if someone would have done this infront of me, whether the doer is a girl or a boy.)<br /><br />So first thing is to think that girl class/section is not weak part of our society, they are equal in all respects. Thinking like this will give us power to act like a society. Where boys and girls are all equal and they all have to deal with this kind of issues. <br /><br />Secondly i would request everyone (be it girl or boy) that please do not be ignorant if anything happens on road with anyone. If today we wont stop it on roads then tomorrow it can intrude our home as well. <br /><br />Please consider and treat all genders and all section of our society equally and DO ACT IF SOMETHING HAPPENS ON ROAD WITH ANYONE. I WILL.Sid- Wanderershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01733015189069050080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-14681155903796728282011-06-08T07:43:25.738-07:002011-06-08T07:43:25.738-07:00http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slut
the wiki defini...http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slut<br /><br />the wiki definition of slut seems to be more indicative of sexual behavior than related to attire...its obviously another one of those endlessly debatable subjects and im noone to contest any point of view, but i looked it up when i saw the word "slutwalk" being used for a protest.<br /><br />the main reason i wanted to comment was having grown up in delhi, i saw these kinda situations everyday so i fully agree with u. but as other people have highlighted in their comments, this walk started in toronto, brisbane etc, so women in other cities face this issue too. other indian cities/towns are no safer than delhi. and indian cities are no more dangerous than other countries. i have not visitied many cities abroad apart from london where i lived for a couple months, and the level of disrespect and crime against women was astonishing.i saw eve teasing and groping on streets on a level which i had never even seen in delhi. and i hear from my friends that other countries like brazil, us, japan, south america are no better. man european countries are notorious as well for street crime against women.<br /><br />my point being that its not just delhi men, its a global problem, and i suppose the deterrent for this kinda behavior is only strong laws, sensitive police and a society less numb to womens problems.hell, numb to everyones problems, if u see smone getting mugged on the road, 99% chance u would walk by.<br /><br />its not just delhi men, whereever there is an absence of deterrence men will behave like this...lobbying for stronger laws and implementation might not sound as much fun as a slutwalk, but might be a more mature way of dealing with this demon.<br /><br />disclaimer **just ended up on this page though smones fb link, so im not sure it comments from strangers are welcome or not**Kahfirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10434885614394229096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-39797606085880787562011-06-08T07:22:11.002-07:002011-06-08T07:22:11.002-07:00First of all, I think there is a distinction betwe...First of all, I think there is a distinction between oglers and molesters/rapists. In a society, there is inconvenience caused by oglers to women in skimpy clothes and also there is inconvenience caused by women in skimpy clothes to men who find this scantiness disturbing or at times repulsive. It’s two way. So, in this context, I don’t completely go along with the campaign. This campaign shouldn’t be taken as narrow as a movement against men staring at thinly clothed women.<br />But as you've pointed it out, there are men, lecherous and uncivilized men, who go many steps further making verbal abuse, personal assault, molestation and worst case, rape. And, if their hearts are made of anything but cold stone, this campaign should be an eye-opener for them, a facepalm.<br />I think at the end of the day, the impression this campaign will make on the society as a whole will depend on how media portrays it. Whether it will ridicule it or embrace it. <br />(Any disrespect caused is purely a shortcoming of my language and not intentional)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-21351066357200303442011-06-08T04:29:41.835-07:002011-06-08T04:29:41.835-07:00Excellent post. Sharing it right away...more peopl...Excellent post. Sharing it right away...more people, especially men, need to know of these daily ordeals the women in our lives endure. Keep the faith!The_Wandererhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14149774492285559635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5289627434691976185.post-41114689701925157862011-06-08T03:31:08.325-07:002011-06-08T03:31:08.325-07:00Its like hearing what I have felt for so many time...Its like hearing what I have felt for so many times during my stay in the relatively 'safe' city of Bangalore. Obscene gestures and lewd looks are more of the smaller things that perverted eveteasers are capable.. <br />Though events like the 'Slut Walk' may make a statement, there is a long way to go before women can act, dress and speak freely.Thursday's Childhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06636800105121270302noreply@blogger.com